How does your eating disorder twist your thoughts? This week, we look at another cognitive distortion from Key Four: Feel Your Feelings, Challenge Your Thoughts in the 8 Keys to Recovery From an Eating Disorder Workbook.
Discounting the positives - finding reasons that your positive experiences are unimportant or don't count. When your default thinking pattern is to discount the positives, you build a bias towards the negative experiences that you have, not because you don't see the good but because you think the negative ones are more important and meaningful for your identity.
Today, Kristie tells us about her experience of discounting the positives and what turned this around for her.
'I'm generally an opportunist and see most slip ups, stumbles and falls as a redirection rather than a backwards direction. In my recovery however, the eating disorder voice was particularly clever at having me be blind to my progress.'
'I would like to set the intention that this time next year I'm further along in recovery but I just don't know if I can GET any further forwards.'
'At first no, I just hoped it was possible. As I leaned into recovery it started to feel more possible.'
'Is that if you can come this far...there is every reason you can go another inch and another inch. And I'd say the same thing even if you had only come 5% - if you can make progress it is about acknowledging the progress and knowing you have the capacity to move forwards. It isn't about whether it is possible or not because you have already proven momentum is possible.'
Look for the positives and count them - they matter!
How does your eating disorder twist your thoughts? Do you find that you brush over your achievements, that you discount the positives?